Healthy Boundaries

Excerpt from: “THE SACRED CHILD COMPANION, A Handbook for ‘Inspired Self-Directed Learning’.”

Setting Healthy Boundaries
Each space where kids can make free choices needs stable and clear boundaries. Inspired Self-Directed Learning can only be successful in a friendly environment, when appropriate physical and emotional boundaries are stated clearly and patiently. New Learning Culture services help you create relevant boundaries that allow each child to explore independently, and reach his/her full potential with joy and ease.

Boundaries are a natural part of life. They form a safe container. When they are healthy, they protect us. Feeling safe and loved is crucial for sustainable learning processes to occur. Children feel safe when they are in the presence of a caring adult.

The Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you,” is universal. However, many boundaries are highly individual. They vary from person to person, from culture to culture. Some adults like to allow more freedom for their kids, some feel safe within a tighter structure. When the adult feels safe, the child feels safe.

Adults need to communicate their boundaries clearly and patiently to their children, usually more than once. Children don’t know what is expected of them, and they forget easily, because they are living in the present moment. The reasons why children often do not respond to boundaries are manyfold. This is one of the main topics to explore in consulting sessions.

Each learning place, where kids can make choices, needs stable boundaries. Find some inspiration here for setting boundaries in your learning place:

• Here we use common sense based on love

• Here we respect everybody and everything

• Here we allow people to focus on their work or play. You may ask once if you are welcome to participate

• Here we put things in order after we use them

• Here we accept a Yes or a No

• Here nobody is teased, startled, or shocked

• Here personal perceptions and individual creativity are respected

• Here nobody is laughed at or ridiculed

• Here enough time and patience is the foundation for every activity

• Here you can rest when you are tired

• Here we inspire each other and give suggestions, but we do not make decisions for each other

For more info on the booklet please go to http://www.newlearningculture.com/sacred-child-companion.html

Please write to carmen@newlearningculture.com to purchase a copy of the “Sacred Child Companion” booklet for $20.

With joy,
Carmen Gamper

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